I’ve always wanted to live by myself, in another city, without any help from my family.

I wanted to think for myself, act for myself, and enjoy everything by myself.

So I moved to Jogja for 30 days.

And I think I’ve learned some valuable lessons here.

Fun, But Not Really

First off, it’s fun and exciting to live by yourself, in a new city, without knowing anyone or having anyone knowing you. It’s like a fresh start, a reset button, so you can ‘rebrand’ yourself.

It’s a whole new world.

But, it’s less fun when you don’t have someone to share your meals with. Someone to joke and goof around with. Someone to share the moment with.

So, although I’m eating my favorite gyudon bowl, it doesn’t feel as satisfying as it’s supposed to be (I think).

You Need Things To Live

Second, I’ve taken many everyday tools and appliances for granted. Things like razor, nail clipper, glass, fork, spoon, water bucket. Things that you didn’t know essential until you don’t have them in hands.

I will eventually need these things, wherever I go. But they can’t go with me on the plane, so I will have to leave them here. If I go to another city/country, I will have to buy those things again. Which brings me to number 3..

You Need People To Enjoy Your Life

It takes time to make a place your home. And it definitely takes time until you call it your home. As I’ve already mentioned above, there are some appliances and tools you need in order to have a healthy and clean living, to establish your living space as a proper space for living.

And also (don’t cringe) home is not only a house. Yes, it’s good to have a roof above your head, foods, and clothes, but it’s also important to have family and friends around you.

Like those everyday things, it takes time to build a home. You can’t just go anywhere and bring them in your pocket. If you’re moving somewhere new, you’ll need time to build connections, get to know people, and start to trust them. Which is hard to do.

So, How Was Jogja?

Here, I live in one of the 31 rooms in the house. It’s a pretty nice room and a pretty nice house too. With a pretty cheap monthly fee, I get AC, a comfy queen-size bed, a desk and a chair, a wardrobe with cloth hangers, a TV, and a bathroom with a shower and a toilet.

I thought this is enough for me to live.

One thing I didn’t realize is the location. The house is not in the center of the city, it’s near the airport. And you know what kind of restaurants/cafes are near an airport? Almost nothing.

Yep, I made a mistake by choosing this room and this house.

There’s almost no decent restaurants and cafes within walking distance. I should grab a Gojek (Indonesian version of Uber, but with motorcycle) to go to the nearest restaurants/cafes/malls.

I know I shouldn’t complain. I thought 1 month was a short time. Turns out you have to figure out what you want to eat every 6 hours.

Until Next Time

Well, lessons learned. Here’s a note for me and you. Next time you want to move, temporarily or even permanently, ask yourself. What do I need? What are my daily activities? From there, you could determine what aspects of living space are important to you. Then decide and pick from the choices you have.

Good luck! Do you have any other helpful tips? Please leave them in the comments below 🙂

Published by Ascencia Fike

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