What can’t you find on the Internet?
You have access to beautiful people, ideas, and places. It’s a blessing, but also a curse.
I have been obsessed with Sean Lew and Kaycee Rice for days now. If you’re not familiar with these names, they’re dancers. Young dancers who dance together.
I mean, how could you not?
They’re only 16! The fact that they’re both talented and successful at such a young age just blew my mind. And to compare that with my achievement when I was their age (or even now) is just depressing.
They’re also so cute together! 🙈
But it has set some unrealistic expectations.
For every Sean Lew and Kaycee Rice, there are hundreds of thousands of dancers that are dancing their heart out.
In the last few days, I’ve been watching their videos for hours. Don’t worry, I’ll get over it (once I have watched ALL of their content that’s available online) just like what I did when I was obsessed with Billie Eilish and Finneas.
Their amazing achievements (which seemed out of this world) made me question my life choices, my talents, and my overall life. It made me question what else I can do with myself. The FOMO is real.
I stop thinking for myself. I almost wish I lived their lives.
“I’m just a regular teenager.”
That’s what Kaycee almost always said in her vlogs.
It’s like she has to remind her audience of this fact. That she also has a life as a teenager.
I always forget that they should’ve missed out on a lot of things, too, especially with that level of focus or specialization. Sometimes there are things that you should just enjoy, after all, you can only master several things (if you’re lucky and great at learning) in life.
How to be inspired but not paralyzed
What should you do with these child prodigies then? How can you appreciate and celebrate them without feeling bad for yourself/regretting your life choices in the past?
- Find out or imagine how their real life is.
Most of them have been training almost all of their lives, for hours and hours a day. Some don’t even go to a normal school, that’s why they have time to do what they’re good at. They’re good at what they do because they have been doing it for years. They’re on a different path than you. Not a better one, just different.
- Look at your own achievements. You have something unique that only you can do.
For me, that’s writing. I’ve loved writing since I was a kid. I’ve been doing it literally for 18 years, just because I love doing it. And sometimes I forgot that it ‘came naturally’ for me. I would only realize it when someone complimented my writing or when I see someone struggling when doing it. I know it’s mean, but it’s the truth. Those years of hustling and exercising your craft would never be seen by your audience, or the people that enjoy your art. They’re not there when you’re doing the real work.
- Once you imagine their life, you would see the attributes that these people possess.
Maybe it’s perfectionism, or determination, or clarity in thinking. Now you can at least see them as another human, a hardworking, not a god or an alien. These attributes are the ones that you can bring back into your life, that you can try to replicate to build a more fulfilling life.
“For most of human existence when we looked around us there were one or two hundred people in our tribe and we could be the best at something. We could stand out and be special and valuable. Now our context is a global tribe of seven-plus billion. There’s always someone better to compare yourself to, and the media is always reporting on these people, which raises the standards just when you think you may be close to reaching them.”Eric Barker in Barking Up The Wrong Tree
It’s not bad to sometimes imagine how your life would have been different if you’ve done things differently. But if it stopped you from living your own, real life, then you should stop. Focus on you as a person, what you have, and what you can give to the world. We all have different roles.
I hope these tips can bring you back to our real, sometimes boring life.
And yes, I drew that sketch of them! (I guess I’m not done fangirling.) What do you think of the drawing? I started to learn this January.